Freethinkers are those who are willing to use their minds without prejudice and without fearing to understand things that clash with their own customs, privileges, or beliefs. This state of mind is not common, but it is essential for right thinking; where it is absent, discussion is apt to become worse than useless.
I think you need to fall in love with the wrong person. I think you need to fight and cry and sweat and bleed and fail. I think you need to have bad relationships and bad breakups. I think you need all of that so that when the right person and the right relationship comes along you can sigh with relief and say, “Ah yes. That is how its supposed to feel.
When you die, the first thing you lose is your life. The next thing is your illusions.
Our mind is greedy; it is always after some gain, some profit, some achievement. It goes on asking, ‘What will I gain if I go to the ocean? What will I achieve if I seek samadhi or nirvana or emptiness?’ We always ask what we are going to achieve, and we never ask – which is what one should ask – ‘How did we lose ourselves in this rat race for gains and achievements?’ On the face of it, we have achieved every thing: we have achieved wealth, power, prestige, everything. And in this very pursuit we have lost ourselves; we have completely lost ourselves. We have now everything – except ourselves.